6 Tips for Easing into Spring & Summer Socializing
By Casa de Suna
Published Apr 09
The transition from winter hibernation to the social energy of spring and summer can feel overwhelming.
If you’ve been cozy at home and suddenly feel pressure to be “on” for events, travel, and gatherings—you’re not alone!
That’s why we tapped Michelle Velan, founder of Woundersource, a company that offers mental fitness, holistic care, and professional development for employees and teams, to give us her tips on making the transition with more ease. Read on for her wise advice!
At Wondersource, we believe that mental fitness, a daily approach to supporting ourselves lovingly and holistically, is the key to feeling more ease, confidence, and joy in any transition.
Here are six ways to navigate this seasonal shift with more self-trust and ease:
At Wondersource, we believe that mental fitness, a daily approach to supporting ourselves lovingly and holistically, is the key to feeling more ease, confidence, and joy in any transition.
Here are six ways to navigate this seasonal shift with more self-trust and ease:
1. Start small: expand your social capacity gradually
You don’t have to go from full hibernation to packed social plans overnight. Make sure to prioritize your needs and give yourself time to adjust:
✅ Ease in with low-pressure meetups (coffee, a walk, a small gathering).
✅ Leave space between events to avoid burnout.
✅ Pay attention to what feels energizing vs. draining.
Dr. Jeffrey Bland, the Father of Functional Medicine, shares five rules for well-being that he lives by at 79. Keep these in mind when you’re reconnecting with people to ensure you’re protecting your energy:
💡 Health tip: Surrounding yourself with the right people deeply supports your nervous system (and the wrong people can have the opposite effect)!
✅ Ease in with low-pressure meetups (coffee, a walk, a small gathering).
✅ Leave space between events to avoid burnout.
✅ Pay attention to what feels energizing vs. draining.
Dr. Jeffrey Bland, the Father of Functional Medicine, shares five rules for well-being that he lives by at 79. Keep these in mind when you’re reconnecting with people to ensure you’re protecting your energy:
- I don’t have relationships with anybody I don’t like.
- I don’t engage in conversations that I think are degrading.
- I don’t go places I feel I shouldn’t be, or do things that are not in my long-term best interest.
- There’s no excuse to say that I’m having a bad day because I’m completely in charge of my day. Instead, I ask what I can do to make it better.
- I try to remember that my presence here is to be of service to others.
💡 Health tip: Surrounding yourself with the right people deeply supports your nervous system (and the wrong people can have the opposite effect)!
2. Identity work and intentions.
You are a powerful being. Take your power back by taking ownership of your days and set intentions for who you will be and how things will go.
Too often we run on autopilot, not taking control of our energy and who we want to be or how we want to feel and show up.
If you haven’t already, take the time to define who your most empowered and abundant self is. Who is this you and how do they want to show up this spring and summer? What do they care about? What do they say yes to? What do they say no to? What beliefs do they hold about themselves and the world? How do things get to go for them? How do people view them? How do they walk into a party? What makes them happy? What feelings do they predominantly feel?
Then bring that YOU into your day-to-day life more. Make your decisions from that empowered version of YOU. Then, use intentions to help anchor in that new empowered reality.
In the morning, set the intention: “today is going to be a great day!”
Before you walk into a meeting, set the intention: “I am confident in my abilities, I am magnetic, I am safe to be seen and this all gets to be fun.”
Before you go to a party, set the intention: “this party will be uplifting and filled with wonderful surprises and beautiful conversations, I am a magnet for miracles.”
💡 Mantra: I am the CEO of my life. I am a powerful creator. I am grateful for my life. I love myself unconditionally and I show up as my most empowered self. I believe in myself. Even in uncertainty I stand in my power.
Too often we run on autopilot, not taking control of our energy and who we want to be or how we want to feel and show up.
If you haven’t already, take the time to define who your most empowered and abundant self is. Who is this you and how do they want to show up this spring and summer? What do they care about? What do they say yes to? What do they say no to? What beliefs do they hold about themselves and the world? How do things get to go for them? How do people view them? How do they walk into a party? What makes them happy? What feelings do they predominantly feel?
Then bring that YOU into your day-to-day life more. Make your decisions from that empowered version of YOU. Then, use intentions to help anchor in that new empowered reality.
In the morning, set the intention: “today is going to be a great day!”
Before you walk into a meeting, set the intention: “I am confident in my abilities, I am magnetic, I am safe to be seen and this all gets to be fun.”
Before you go to a party, set the intention: “this party will be uplifting and filled with wonderful surprises and beautiful conversations, I am a magnet for miracles.”
💡 Mantra: I am the CEO of my life. I am a powerful creator. I am grateful for my life. I love myself unconditionally and I show up as my most empowered self. I believe in myself. Even in uncertainty I stand in my power.
3. Shift your self-talk: speak to yourself with love
Having a self-compassionate loving self-talk is just about one of the best things you can do for your mental health and regulating your nervous system. If you’re feeling run down from being busier, pressure to be “on,” or worried about what others think, try shifting your inner dialogue.
Imagine a cute little bubbly monster who just loves you so much and is always cheering you on and encouraging you and has the nicest things to say.
✅ Instead of: “What if I make a mistake?”
➡ Try: “What if it doesn’t just work, what if it completely takes off? I am safe. I am loved. I belong. I don’t have to be perfect.”
✅ Instead of: “Something is missing.”
➡ Try: “I am whole and complete exactly as I am. I trust in myself and divine timing. I don’t chase, I attract from alignment and a place of certainty. I don’t prove myself. I am present. I am relaxed, secure and confident in my body. I like and love who I am.”
💡 Nervous System Tip: When triggers come up, gently say:
💭 What am I making this mean about myself or the world?
Then ask:
Is this the ultimate truth? Of course it’s not!
What else could be true?
What if the opposite were true?
Knowing that I am a powerful co-creator, what am I choosing to believe going forward?
Then, redirect your focus to curiosity, gratitude, or excitement.
Imagine a cute little bubbly monster who just loves you so much and is always cheering you on and encouraging you and has the nicest things to say.
✅ Instead of: “What if I make a mistake?”
➡ Try: “What if it doesn’t just work, what if it completely takes off? I am safe. I am loved. I belong. I don’t have to be perfect.”
✅ Instead of: “Something is missing.”
➡ Try: “I am whole and complete exactly as I am. I trust in myself and divine timing. I don’t chase, I attract from alignment and a place of certainty. I don’t prove myself. I am present. I am relaxed, secure and confident in my body. I like and love who I am.”
💡 Nervous System Tip: When triggers come up, gently say:
💭 What am I making this mean about myself or the world?
Then ask:
Is this the ultimate truth? Of course it’s not!
What else could be true?
What if the opposite were true?
Knowing that I am a powerful co-creator, what am I choosing to believe going forward?
Then, redirect your focus to curiosity, gratitude, or excitement.
4. Protect your energy: set boundaries & honor your needs
If you’ve struggled with people-pleasing, prioritizing your needs may feel uncomfortable at first. But a healthy, thriving version of you:
✅ Meets their own needs first.
✅ Gives and receives freely.
✅ Honors their own rhythms and intuition.
💡 Releasing the fear of disapproval: If you fear abandonment or tend to ignore your needs or attract people or situations where you don’t feel seen, give yourself so much love and compassion, and practice choosing you first:
➡ Let yourself be “abandoned.”
➡ Let yourself be misunderstood.
➡ Stop overexplaining
➡ Stop trying to prove yourself.
Instead, validate yourself, your emotions, your dreams and your choices like it’s your job.
The right people will value and love you as you are—but you have to release the ones who don’t and you have to value, love and respect yourself.
Ask yourself: Does this event feel like a YES? If not, trust that you don’t have to force it.
Here are some mantras for you:
✅ Meets their own needs first.
✅ Gives and receives freely.
✅ Honors their own rhythms and intuition.
💡 Releasing the fear of disapproval: If you fear abandonment or tend to ignore your needs or attract people or situations where you don’t feel seen, give yourself so much love and compassion, and practice choosing you first:
➡ Let yourself be “abandoned.”
➡ Let yourself be misunderstood.
➡ Stop overexplaining
➡ Stop trying to prove yourself.
Instead, validate yourself, your emotions, your dreams and your choices like it’s your job.
The right people will value and love you as you are—but you have to release the ones who don’t and you have to value, love and respect yourself.
Ask yourself: Does this event feel like a YES? If not, trust that you don’t have to force it.
Here are some mantras for you:
- Even in uncertainty, I stand in my power
- I love and accept myself unconditionally
- I am unwavering in my faith
- It’s safe to hold and receive joy and success with ease
- I open my heart to possibilities, joy and things going better than my wildest dreams
5. Anchor yourself with rituals
Routines can help us anchor into our healthy, authentic, abundant selves. Small, grounding practices can make transitions smoother.
🌞 Morning grounding – Meditate, visualise a beautiful gold light going into your body from the crown of your head and filling every cell of your body with love and light and then visualize your day going well and feel into the emotions that you want to experience more often (joy, ease, relaxation, confidence), stretching, gently tapping your body to give it love and wake it up, journaling.
🌿 Pre-event reset – Breathwork, uplifting music, visualize yourself walking into the event, radiating, glowing, confident, humble, empowered.
🌙 Post-event wind-down – A warm shower, stretching your body, or journaling.
💡 Nervous system tip: If you feel drained after socializing, take a bath or do a “shake-off”—literally shake out your arms and legs for 30 seconds to release built-up tension.
🌞 Morning grounding – Meditate, visualise a beautiful gold light going into your body from the crown of your head and filling every cell of your body with love and light and then visualize your day going well and feel into the emotions that you want to experience more often (joy, ease, relaxation, confidence), stretching, gently tapping your body to give it love and wake it up, journaling.
- Before you walk out the door, put your hand on your heart, look in the mirror and say something like: You are beautiful inside and out, you are incredible, I am so proud of you, today is going to be an amazing day, I get to be happy, I am so grateful for all I have.
🌿 Pre-event reset – Breathwork, uplifting music, visualize yourself walking into the event, radiating, glowing, confident, humble, empowered.
🌙 Post-event wind-down – A warm shower, stretching your body, or journaling.
💡 Nervous system tip: If you feel drained after socializing, take a bath or do a “shake-off”—literally shake out your arms and legs for 30 seconds to release built-up tension.
6. Make it fun & give yourself grace
Laughter is medicine. Joy is healing. Let yourself loosen up and know that not everything has to be so serious.
Regularly ask yourself:
What would I love to do today?
What would make me so happy now?
Doing things we enjoy and energize us are not only healing, but they bring out the best in us. We’re more likely to draw the right people and opportunities when we’re doing things we enjoy.
Give yourself more space and slack in your life to just be and have fun.
Take the time to define what having fun means to you. Maybe it’s a coffee with a friend on the weekend, a dinner party where you’ve cooked something new or maybe it’s a solo dance party after a long day at work.
Define it for yourself.
Put your hand on your heart and remind yourself:
✨ I get to be happy.
✨ I don’t have to earn rest or connection.
✨ Socializing is meant to feel good.
✨ I am loveable and loved exactly as I am.
By supporting yourself holistically and honoring your energy, you can ease into the season feeling grounded, confident, and connected.
To your success and a joyful, ease-filled transition into spring & summer! 🌞✨
Regularly ask yourself:
What would I love to do today?
What would make me so happy now?
Doing things we enjoy and energize us are not only healing, but they bring out the best in us. We’re more likely to draw the right people and opportunities when we’re doing things we enjoy.
Give yourself more space and slack in your life to just be and have fun.
Take the time to define what having fun means to you. Maybe it’s a coffee with a friend on the weekend, a dinner party where you’ve cooked something new or maybe it’s a solo dance party after a long day at work.
Define it for yourself.
Put your hand on your heart and remind yourself:
✨ I get to be happy.
✨ I don’t have to earn rest or connection.
✨ Socializing is meant to feel good.
✨ I am loveable and loved exactly as I am.
By supporting yourself holistically and honoring your energy, you can ease into the season feeling grounded, confident, and connected.
To your success and a joyful, ease-filled transition into spring & summer! 🌞✨
